The title of this post is somewhat misleading, as I never actually “dated” in my twenties, so really it should simply be: Dating: some observations. But I am thirty, and I am dating, and so here we are. I amused / terrified myself recently by counting how many months I spent single in my twenties. […]
Happy new month, happy new moon! I’m writing this in my favourite cafe, a skip along the canal from my flat and I’m drinking a soy latte that I’ll probably regret at 10pm tonight when I can’t sleep. Rebel? You know it. Today I’ve got some personal updates for you, an invitation to work with me […]
I just sent this excerpt from my upcoming eBook The She Is Radiant Toolkit: 36 Truths, Dares & Tools To Guide Your Wellness Adventure off to a few clients of mine who are cranking their self trust and self worth practice and I thought ‘Hey! I think my incredible blog readers would enjoy these too.’ So here you are. Can’t wait to hear what you think about this sneaky-peak!
There’s no denying that SELF LOVE is a big buzz word right now – and rightly so. It’s crucial to cultivate a self love practice, one that ensures you are kind to yourself, nourish yourself and accept all of who you are.
But I want to throw a couple of words into the mix – SELF TRUST and SELF WORTH.
In my early twenties, I didn’t have a huge number of girl friends. I’ve always had a couple of close besties, but I generally never ‘clicked’ with many other girls. I always found it so much easier to make friends with boys – I felt they were more easy going, less bitchy and the big one – I felt they didn’t judge me.
I realise now, that a lot of the walls I was holding up around other ladies in my life were directly connected to my own fears and insecurities – being afraid of what others thought of me, comparison and even competition.
However, over the past year I have felt the female relationships in my life shift dramatically. I have opened my heart to other women, I’ve dropped the comparisons, the gossip and bitchiness and completely embraced the freaking amazing females in my life.
It’s not everyday you get to chat with someone you have on your vision board. I’m going to put it out there, Melissa Ambrosini has been one of my biggest inspirations over the last 18 months as I’ve slowly transitioned my life from Desk Job/Party Girl/A Little Bit Lost to Health Coach/Yogini/General Life Lover. I’ve cooked her recipes, read her book (and highly recommend it!) and watched her speak live at Earth Event’s Self Love & Sisterhood tour earlier this year. I seriously smile just thinking about her wide-eyed excitement when discussing health, self love, passion and authenticity.
In person, she is warm, adorable and radiates love. And is (obviously) a massive babe. Recently, I’ve had the pleasure of coaching with Mel. Her intelligent insights and life experience combined with her passion, generosity and crazy love for her work has been invaluable for where I am at right now in my own life and business and I am forever grateful for her time. I know you will be inspired by this woman of wellness and her heart of gold. Maybe you’ll even put her on your vision board too.
Today’s Heroine with Heart is a very special person in my life. Synchronicity brought Fiona Ferreira into my world when I had hit absolutely rock bottom. My entire life had changed overnight; I was lost, confused, angry, anxious, heartbroken and in serious need of some healing. Fiona’s blend of reiki and energy healing has transformed so many areas of my life; physically and emotionally. I have written about my personal experiences with reiki here, here and here.
Fiona is not only a Reiki 2 Practitioner, Writer and Blogger but also a wonderful Mum to two young children. She seriously blows my mind with her intuition and her ability to give so much to the world. She has the biggest heart of GOLD and I am beyond thrilled to introduce her to you today.
I don’t know about you, but I find there is nothing more inspiring than girl-crushing on a mega babe who is living her dream, rocking her life and changing the world in the process. Someone who I can relate to as well as look up to.
Someone whose story resonates with me and who I admire for living their life with PASSION and AUTHENTICITY and kicking arse in the process.
I dig it. Connection. Soul sisters. Good vibes. Sharing the love.
So without further ado, it is with great pleasure that I kick off my interview series Heroines with Heart today – a weekly space for me to share with you some of the ultra inspiring, brilliant women (or men – it’d be wicked to have a Hero with Heart up here too!) that are currently blowing my mind.
I’m SO excited to introduce you to the gorgeous Tegan Westra. This girl has a heart of gold and she is on a mission to end the battle that too many women have with their bodies.
So after we have gotten back to basics and become real and honest with ourselves by getting real, we can fall in love with exercise and our body by becoming AMAZED at it’s capabilities.
What it can DO. It’s potential not only physically, but mentally as well. I love that exercise allows me to not only look after my physical health, but just as importantly, my mental health.
Stay forever amazed at the awesomeness of your body. Let’s dive in.
OK, so now we’ve gotten back to basics. We’ve ditched the scales, we’re tuning into our bodies and we’re creating an intention to care for ourselves. Brilliant. Today we are going to break it down and get real girlfriend (or boyfriend – lads have body gripes too, I know).
I’ll be honest with you. I used to complain about my body constantly. What I hated, what I wanted to change and how I was going to do it. I’d write up unrealistic detox plans and crazy exercise schedules with the aim losing some silly amount of weight from places my body just isn’t designed to lose weight from.
But of course these schemes don’t work. I was being completely unrealistic about what my body was capable of, my limitations, my potential, my needs and desires. I’d usually become annoyed that the scales hadn’t changed and I’d give up. Or if they had changed, I was generally so exhausted from living off carrot sticks and green tea and living part-time at the gym, that I’d burn out and binge and the cycle would repeat once more.
Do you relate to this? If so, it’s time to get real sweetheart.
I want you to get ultra honest with yourself as you read through this post. Where do you deny yourself your birth right to really dig yo’ fine self, love your body, exercise from a place of love and feel really, really good?
I’ve never really been comfortable or confident in my bod in the past. There’s always been 5kg to lose. Love handles to eradicate. Abs to chisel. I’ve wanted to be taller, have slimmer thighs, a firmer butt, less cellulite, the list goes on. I’d dread wearing a bikini or getting naked in front of my boyfriend. I’d suck my belly in and tape my boobs down. Yes, I have literally done that!
But in the past 6 months I’ve finally started to fall in love with my body and how amazing it is, by choosing to exercise from a place of love, rather than a place of fear. I can’t believe how different my exercise regime looks today than it did 12 months ago. How much LESS I am doing and how much HAPPIER my body is.
Today, I exercise because it makes me feel good, not because I’m afraid of getting fat.
And as happens, I’ve ended up losing that ‘Yes I’ve Been Eating My Way Around Europe’ look that I was working so hard at ditching. Funny how these things work like that.